Entries Tagged as 'conversation skills'

How to Escalate the Conversation to the Personal Level

Here I described how you can get the woman to escalate the conversation to the personal level. In this article it’s about how you can do the transition yourself.

Investing into Something

Can you identify with one of the following situations?

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I’m in Las Vegas playing at a slot machine. I insert a coin and pull the handle. The wheels turn and stop. No win. Again. No win. I insert coin after coin but I’m not winning. After a while I switch to the slot machine next to it. But I’m not winning there either. Then someone is approaching who also seems to want to play. For some reason I don’t want this person to play at my previous machine, so I switch back to play at my old machine. That doesn’t really make sense. But I feel invested in that machine because I did put money in there.

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How to Get the Woman to Escalate the Conversation to the Personal Level

So that a conversation with a new woman can go to the personal level, she must be in some way interested in you. She must feel attraction. More see here…

Now I want to look closer at the transition from impersonal small talk to personal conversation. Basically there are two strategies:

  1. You get the woman to do the transition.
  2. You do the transition yourself.

In this article I write about the first possibility.

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Why it’s not so easy to escalate verbally

The point of all the articles about small talk was to just chat. Now we’re getting into the seduction zone. ;-)

In the previous article I talked about the personal and the impersonal conversation. The former is with a friend, the later is with a stranger.

If you talk to a strange woman it can become weird pretty quick to even talk to her. One reason can be that she doesn’t know why you’re talking to her, another one can be that she thinks it’s boring.

To continue you must bring the conversation to a personal level.

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