Entries Tagged as 'behavior of a seducer'
How to Start a Conversation
What should you talk about?
The first thing you need to realize is that you don’t need to say anything spectacular. It doesn’t have to be super funny nor ridiculously interesting nor extremely clever. You can say whatever comes to mind. Anything.
The important thing is that you say it immediately!
Imagine you come into a situation, for instance the cashpoint in the supermarket. You’re saying hi. The cashier is calculating your stuff together. All the time you look at her wondering what you could say and after a another while you say: “how are you?”
That’s weird isn’t it?
Mission Small Talk
Some time ago, I thought that to seduce a woman I need clever lines and jokes. And because I didn’t have those, I wasn’t successful. What a nonsense! Even if I would have had some of those super clever lines, what would I have said after?
Let’s forget about seduction for a moment. Something that is a lot more important is this: the ability and the skill to have a normal conversation with a stranger. If you cannot initiate a conversation and hold it then what’s the point of the clever lines and cool techniques? If you can be relaxed and have a normal conversation then you are already very very far.
Dominant Body Language: Lean Back!
In the first part I said that good body language is relaxed and comfortable.
What does that mean?
Basically you assume that the woman likes you. Not in an arrogant way that you are the best and the woman is minor to you. More in the sense that you accept yourself without thinking about it. You just are.
Here’s a mistake you can easily prevent.
Vicky Cristina Barcelona
It’s a wonderful movie about seduction and relationships. You will see everything we talk about in this blog: boring and seductive men and bitchy, sensual, passionate women. Watch it if you get a chance!
Here are two trailers…
Dominant Body Language: Videos
Once I read a study that said that body language was 93% of all communication. And we think about what to say to a woman we would like to meet?! Many times I approached women who didn’t speak my language at all and they still liked me. Definitely not because I said the “right” thing!
Body language is your posture, your voice, your eye contact, how you move your body and so on…
Is there a IDEAL SUPER body language, that makes women fall for you instantly? Bullshit!
Touching and Escalating: Timing
In a seduction a man and a woman touch each other more and more until they kiss and have sex. That was the step-by-step-part.
In the attitude-part I said that the man doesn’t have to wait until the woman shows him that he is now allowed to touch her. He should just do it because he choses to. By doing so he is dominant and therefore the woman feels attraction and welcomes the touching.
Now let’s look closer at the exact moment when to touch.
Touching and Escalating: The Attitude
Let’s assume a man and a woman are attracted to and like each other. A seduction happens when they touch each other more and more until they kiss and have sex. The touching is a step by step escalation. That’s what I wrote in part one.
You might ask: When should I touch her? When should I escalate?
The Weak Attitude
For a long time I thought it works like this: The woman will show me whether she wants me to touch her. If the woman showed me that she is attracted to me and likes me I escalated. So I basically waited for her permission. This is correct but it’s WEAK!
Touching and Escalating: Step by Step
Do you know this situation? A guy is on a date with a woman he likes. They have fun and they understand each other very well. Once in a while he thinks that he would like to kiss her but he is not sure if she would allow it. Maybe it’s not the right moment. So he waits and they continue having a good time. At the end of the date they hug and say goodbye and again he would like to kiss her but he’s afraid that she could reject him. Maybe he takes the risk maybe not. But in any way this kissing seems to be a big step and it seems very important.
There is something wrong with this situation!
Kissing should not be this huge step. It should be natural. But when is it natural? Is it when the woman is really attracted? Is it when the woman really likes him? Maybe.
Don’t Explain Yourself!
Women like dominant and strong men. The question is this: How can you communicate that to a woman? Probably she would not believe you if you told her directly: “I’m dominant and strong.” There must be another way to do that.
One way is this: Don’t explain yourself! Don’t justify yourself! Don’t qualify yourself!
Here’s a simple example of what I mean with explaining oneself
A good friend of mine says to me: “Your shirt is ugly!”
I answer: “But the sales girl gave me very good advise and she told me that the shirt looks good with these jeans.”
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