Last time I said that speaking loud would show dominance. There is another way to do that with your voice: the intonation.
There are two intonation that I want to look at:
Imagine a bouncer in front of a club who checks the age of the party people. For a specific party he only grants entry to 25 year olds or older. If he thinks someone is older then he doesn’t even check. If someone looks young he asks: “how old are you?”
Your voice is a very important tool of your body language.
Recently I was “on tour” with a pro and learned two ways to express dominance and strong male presence with my voice. Here is one of them:
Talk loud and clear!
I always felt a bit embarrassed to talk loud. Especially when I approached a woman. I didn’t want other people to notice it. I didn’t want to stand out. But exactly that is a problem. A dominant alpha male is not impressed about what others think about him. He is congruent with what he is doing. He isn’t looking for validation from others. He decides for himself.
It’s about time for a new mission. I do the following. You’re welcome to join.
For the next two weeks: Talk to one new woman every day. Say more than hi.
It doesn’t matter where. On the street, in a bar, in a waiting queue, in an elevator, on the train, …
It doesn’t matter who as long as it is a woman. This time employees in supermarket or so don’t count.
It doesn’t matter what you say and it doesn’t matter what happens. Just say more than hi and wait for her answer or reaction.
Here I described how you can get the woman to escalate the conversation to the personal level. In this article it’s about how you can do the transition yourself.
Can you identify with one of the following situations?
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I’m in Las Vegas playing at a slot machine. I insert a coin and pull the handle. The wheels turn and stop. No win. Again. No win. I insert coin after coin but I’m not winning. After a while I switch to the slot machine next to it. But I’m not winning there either. Then someone is approaching who also seems to want to play. For some reason I don’t want this person to play at my previous machine, so I switch back to play at my old machine. That doesn’t really make sense. But I feel invested in that machine because I did put money in there.
So that a conversation with a new woman can go to the personal level, she must be in some way interested in you. She must feel attraction. More see here…
Now I want to look closer at the transition from impersonal small talk to personal conversation. Basically there are two strategies:
In this article I write about the first possibility.
Here’s a mission I’m going to do for the next week (of course you’re welcome to join):
Smile and say hi to 10 strangers every day.
Have you ever done this? Did you think it’s embarrassing?
It depends upon your attitude.
The point of all the articles about small talk was to just chat. Now we’re getting into the seduction zone. 
In the previous article I talked about the personal and the impersonal conversation. The former is with a friend, the later is with a stranger.
If you talk to a strange woman it can become weird pretty quick to even talk to her. One reason can be that she doesn’t know why you’re talking to her, another one can be that she thinks it’s boring.
To continue you must bring the conversation to a personal level.
In this article I explain why a conversation with a stranger often leads nowhere.
What is the difference between a conversation with a good friend and one with a stranger?
Let’s have a look at two conversations. Once I’m talking to a friend, once to a girl I just met in a bar.
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With a good friend…
Me: Hey, what’s up!
Him: Hey, I’m fine and you?
Me: Good good, yesterday I watched the latest Rambo movie. Wow it was incredibly violent, but for some reason pretty cool.
Him: What? You watch stuff like this?!
Me: Come on that’s cult!
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When I was talking to a woman I often thought about what I could say or ask next while she was still talking. I would ask a question and while she was answering I thought about my next thing to say. When she was finished talking I would say or ask it. Because I was only half listening and half thinking what to say next my next statement or question didn’t fit totally to what she said.
After a while this starts to be weird. The other person senses that the conversation is not quite right. Something feels a bit off even if the other person doesn’t understand consciously what is happening. Chances are that the conversation ends soon.
Check out this interview. It’s awesome! 
