Mission – Beliefs in the Subconscious Mind
The last mission was to approach a woman every single day. When I went out to a bar or so it wasn’t particularly difficult to approach. There were always some opportunities to start conversations naturally. On day when I didn’t go out sometimes I bailed you.
I noticed when I saw a woman and then pressured myself to approach her I felt bad. Sometimes it felt like my whole interior tried to hold me back. There were thousands of reasons why I shouldn’t approach. Often I let it be.
Then there were situations in which I saw a woman and immediately and spontaneously started talking. Without any thoughts. It just happened.
I would like it to be automatic all the time.
There are several reasons why it’s often not automatic. I want to deal with one of them now.
That’s how I see it:
There is the conscious and the subconscious mind. The conscious makes decisions, thinks logic, recognizes feelings and so on. The subconscious is hidden from our conscious thinking. It contains the beliefs and the self image. It controls our autopilot behavior so that our experiences match our beliefs and our self image.
Suppose there is the belief “approaching women is difficult and stressful” in my subconscious mind then I will experience this very thing in the real world. My “normal” behavior will be that I don’t approach. If I push myself to still approach then my subconscious will protest and generate bad feelings in me. It will do so as long as I carry this belief with me.
Now I want to work on my beliefs. Here’s what I do:
Every day I do the following twice a day. After waking up and before going to sleep. It takes about 15 minutes each.
1.Think of 10 things you’re grateful for and feel the gratitude.
2.Speak your affirmations about your goal with conviction and feeling.
3.Visualize your goals as real as possible.
Gratitude
It’s about moving your attention into a positive direction. Away from things you don’t want and what’s bad towards things you like and enjoy.
Affirmations
The first step is to think about what it is that you truly want. See also “My goals with women.” Starting with that you can formulate positive sentences about your goals. It’s important to not have any “never” or “not” in your affirmations. Not: “I don’t fear approaching women.” but: “I approach easily and effortlessly.”
Visualize
Imagine having already achieved your goal in as much detail as possible. What do you see? What do you hear? How do you feel? Enjoy the feeling!
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