In the last article I wrote about the levels of consciousness by Hawkins. I’m writing them again from the perspective of a seducer.
A great book about the levels of consciousness!
“Level of consciousness” means a way of thinking, a mental attitude, a way to look at the world and oneself.
The higher someone’s level of consciousness, the more this person understands about the world and the more he sees the world as it really is. It also means: the higher the consciousness the happier and peaceful the person is.
To step up one level someone must have a specific insight or aha-moment. By doing this, a problem that was persistent before is now solved and the person sees the world in a different light. Hawkins talks about 17 Steps and divides them basically in three main levels which I’m describing below.
Last time I said that speaking loud would show dominance. There is another way to do that with your voice: the intonation.
There are two intonation that I want to look at:
Imagine a bouncer in front of a club who checks the age of the party people. For a specific party he only grants entry to 25 year olds or older. If he thinks someone is older then he doesn’t even check. If someone looks young he asks: “how old are you?”
Your voice is a very important tool of your body language.
Recently I was “on tour” with a pro and learned two ways to express dominance and strong male presence with my voice. Here is one of them:
Talk loud and clear!
I always felt a bit embarrassed to talk loud. Especially when I approached a woman. I didn’t want other people to notice it. I didn’t want to stand out. But exactly that is a problem. A dominant alpha male is not impressed about what others think about him. He is congruent with what he is doing. He isn’t looking for validation from others. He decides for himself.
I wrote this text last summer and it fits to the current mission…
There is a known phenomenon. The first woman I approach in a day is difficult. There are thoughts in my head like: “Shall I talk to her or not? How is she going to react? What shall I say?” In other words I think and think and doubt and doubt. The second woman is easier and the third even easier. I think less and I become more relaxed. The more relaxed I am the better reactions from girls I get.
It would be nice if even the first was easy. An analogy: If I’m hungry I go take a sandwich and eat it. It wouldn’t cross my mind to think: “I’m afraid to eat a sandwich.” If I’m hungry I eat a sandwich. If I’m thirsty I drink something. In the same manner I’d like this approaching thing to be. If I see a girl I like I go talk to her.
So, with this background I did an experiment with a friend. We wanted to experience how it feels like to approach 100 women in a single day. Of course without alcohol.
It’s about time for a new mission. I do the following. You’re welcome to join.
For the next two weeks: Talk to one new woman every day. Say more than hi.
It doesn’t matter where. On the street, in a bar, in a waiting queue, in an elevator, on the train, …
It doesn’t matter who as long as it is a woman. This time employees in supermarket or so don’t count.
It doesn’t matter what you say and it doesn’t matter what happens. Just say more than hi and wait for her answer or reaction.
Here I described how you can get the woman to escalate the conversation to the personal level. In this article it’s about how you can do the transition yourself.
Can you identify with one of the following situations?
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I’m in Las Vegas playing at a slot machine. I insert a coin and pull the handle. The wheels turn and stop. No win. Again. No win. I insert coin after coin but I’m not winning. After a while I switch to the slot machine next to it. But I’m not winning there either. Then someone is approaching who also seems to want to play. For some reason I don’t want this person to play at my previous machine, so I switch back to play at my old machine. That doesn’t really make sense. But I feel invested in that machine because I did put money in there.
