Touching and Escalating: The Attitude
Let’s assume a man and a woman are attracted to and like each other. A seduction happens when they touch each other more and more until they kiss and have sex. The touching is a step by step escalation. That’s what I wrote in part one.
You might ask: When should I touch her? When should I escalate?
The Weak Attitude
For a long time I thought it works like this: The woman will show me whether she wants me to touch her. If the woman showed me that she is attracted to me and likes me I escalated. So I basically waited for her permission. This is correct but it’s WEAK!
The More Powerful Attitude
Imagine this: I’m talking to a woman and I behave in a way that she is attracted to me. She will be attracted if I’m decisive, strong and dominant. (This behavior triggers her feeling of attraction.) And now I wait for her permission to escalate. I wait for her permission?! By doing that I loose all the power in the situation and that’s not dominant and not attractive.
Now I think like this: I touch the woman just like that without permission and exactly that’s why she feels attraction. I choose to touch her. I choose to escalate. I don’t ask for her permission.
You could look at touching as a dominant gesture. Now the woman doesn’t allow the touching but the man is dominant because he touches her and that’s why she will be attracted. Do you see the difference to the weak attitude?
By the way Women find this very exciting. They are thrilled about what comes next. They enjoy to be lead. It makes them feel like women.
Watch Her Reaction!
Of course you still have to watch whether she feels comfortable. If you sense resistance then stop and try again later. But don’t be impressed by her reaction. Keep your cool. Don’t react emotional to the woman. Don’t excuse yourself for touching her. Don’t explain yourself.
A Note On Kissing…
If you try to kiss a woman and she turns her face away then this just means: “Not yet.” You’re actually better off as if you wouldn’t have tried (maybe except if it was really inappropriate). Why? Because now she knows that you’re not a wimp. You’re a man who does what he wants. But don’t start to discuss why she didn’t want to kiss. Change the subject. Or say she ruined the moment and then change the subject. There are also situations where it’s appropriate to ask her if there is something that she wanted to tell you. With some experience you will know what to do. Just remember if she doesn’t want to kiss then and there it means: “not yet.”
Common Sense
Please watch the woman and the situation and use your own common sense. This post doesn’t mean that you can be a weird guy and then the women will like if you touch and try to kiss them. The woman must be somewhat attracted to you and like you. Otherwise she will not accept your touching. Anyway I won’t be responsible if you get slapped. 
What I basically wanted to say in this post: Don’t wait and wait and wait and wait some more until the woman shows that she wants you! Take initiative and escalate! Women are passive and receptive and normally don’t lead. For a woman it’s a turn on if a man takes the lead. It’s exciting for her!
In the third part I talk about the natural timing of the escalation…
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