Recently I got an email with a funny story about monkeys…
Let’s take a cage with five monkeys. Hang a banana at the ceiling of the cage and put a ladder beneath it. It won’t take a long time until one of the monkeys will try to climb the ladder to get the banana.
As soon as the monkey touches the ladder spray the monkeys with cold water. After a while another monkey will try to climb the ladder. Again spray all the monkeys with cold water.
In the first part I said that good body language is relaxed and comfortable.
What does that mean?
Basically you assume that the woman likes you. Not in an arrogant way that you are the best and the woman is minor to you. More in the sense that you accept yourself without thinking about it. You just are.
Here’s a mistake you can easily prevent.
Something funny happened to me. I was in a bar and was talking to two girls. One moment I was silently looking at them. They whispered something to each other and I realized that they would like to tell me something but were afraid to do so. I asked them what’s up? Again they whispered to each other then one of them asked: “what’s the size of your penis?”
I smirked but didn’t answer. Then one of the girls grabbed me between the legs and started rubbing up and down. To feel my size of course. After a while I said it would get bigger now. She stopped and I walked away.
I guess the mission starts to have some effects…
It’s a wonderful movie about seduction and relationships. You will see everything we talk about in this blog: boring and seductive men and bitchy, sensual, passionate women. Watch it if you get a chance!
Here are two trailers…
Once I read a study that said that body language was 93% of all communication. And we think about what to say to a woman we would like to meet?! Many times I approached women who didn’t speak my language at all and they still liked me. Definitely not because I said the “right” thing!
Body language is your posture, your voice, your eye contact, how you move your body and so on…
Is there a IDEAL SUPER body language, that makes women fall for you instantly? Bullshit!
In a seduction a man and a woman touch each other more and more until they kiss and have sex. That was the step-by-step-part.
In the attitude-part I said that the man doesn’t have to wait until the woman shows him that he is now allowed to touch her. He should just do it because he choses to. By doing so he is dominant and therefore the woman feels attraction and welcomes the touching.
Now let’s look closer at the exact moment when to touch.
I’m going to write the 3rd part of the escalation series later. Today I start with a mission for the next few weeks and of course you’re welcome to join. It’s about the inner dialog…
I’m walking along the street in a pedestrian area. From far away I see a pretty woman walking towards me. Exactly my type. Does she see me too? I’m watching her while she’s coming closer. Does she see me? Does she like me? She’s coming closer. 10 meters to go. I’m looking into her eyes. She’s looking straight ahead. Doesn’t she see me? 5 meters. She doesn’t look at me. Doesn’t she like me? Why doesn’t she look at me? Am I not tall enough? 3 meters. Not good looking enough? Not her type? Now she’s at my level and is passing by and she didn’t even look at me. Why didn’t she look at me? What didn’t she like about me?
Let’s assume a man and a woman are attracted to and like each other. A seduction happens when they touch each other more and more until they kiss and have sex. The touching is a step by step escalation. That’s what I wrote in part one.
You might ask: When should I touch her? When should I escalate?
For a long time I thought it works like this: The woman will show me whether she wants me to touch her. If the woman showed me that she is attracted to me and likes me I escalated. So I basically waited for her permission. This is correct but it’s WEAK!
